12 Steps to Breaking Free from Being the Family Scapegoat
by Glynis Sherwood
- Did you grow up having doubts about your self esteem or personal worth?
- When things went wrong in your family, did you tend to be the fall guy?
- Do you find yourself encountering recurring disrespect from friends or colleagues?
- Do you feel unsure of yourself and/or have difficulty experiencing trust in relationships?
How to Tell if You Have Been Scapegoated:You are held responsible for family problems, conflicts or challenges, even if they have nothing to do with you. Other people blame you for their actions. You may end up feeling a lot of shame for being ‘the bad guy’, and/or anger for being blamed for negative family dynamics.
You are attacked and disbelieved if you tell the truth and ‘blow the whistle’ on negative and/or inappropriate family dynamics.
There has been a history of one or more family members being verbally, emotionally or physically abusive towards you. Other family members seem to accept or look the other way when you are bullied or aggressed against like this. You may feel like the ‘black sheep’ of the family.
About the Author: Glynis Sherwood - MEd, Canadian Certified Counsellor, Registered Clinical Counsellor, specializes in recovery from Scapegoating/Bullying, Low Self Esteem, Anxiety, Depression, Grief and Addictive Behaviors.